LXX (70) The Filter

Good morning. We have another chance to make this the best day all over again, how wonderful is that? Anything could happen today. I do my best to visualize the best day I can imagine, everything coming up roses. On those great days, it seems like any past setbacks were actually setting you up for your current success, so in times of turbulence try tor remember that beautiful days lie ahead.

Recently I was reading or listening to something that was talking about what happens when we dream, what may be happening with our memories when we sleep. That things get filtered out for long term storage, our brain tries to remember the important memories. A lot of times what we think is important are the extremes, so the bad times can seem more bad, and the good times can seem more perfect. We can then idealize the good times in the past, and give more significance to challenging times. That’s not to diminish the feelings that we experienced it’s just to say we can forget the silver lining in certain challenging times and think that our best days are behind us, because we forget the parts that weren’t so good.

So trauma comes from something really bad that happened, but then becomes a toxic story that we tell ourselves over, and over again that ends up blocking us now. Let’s tell new stories. Let’s tell stories that help us heal from the pain in our past, and paint a picture of a future we want to move into now. We can make up any story we want, because the story that we’re telling ourselves by default is made up too. Tell better stories.